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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you have borderline personality disorder? [/quote]

No, I don’t think so. Although I think I have several symptoms - primarily intense anger at times that feels inappropriate. [/quote]

Underneath that anger is a set of core beliefs that need unpacking. Usually a core fear of not being good enough.

And it’s possible that therapy can makes things temporarily worse before they are better. Think of wound that’s healed badly and inhibiting your ability to use a limb. To fix the wound you have to go in and remove the scar tissue, which will make the wound more sensitive for a time while it heals properly.

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I’ve stuck with therapists for years with little improvement [/quote]

Wrong therapists then.

I am training to be a therapist and I get it. I’ve had many bad ones but the good ones are great. [/quote]

Seems like you are fairly biased, no? Since this is how you will make $ [/quote]

DP here, who also trained to be a therapist. I spent two years in grad school, 4.0 GPA (which was shockingly easy to attain, compared to my engineering undergrad), completed 3 internships with glowing reviews, and was 95% done with the program. However, a little reading is a dangerous thing. I read the text books, but I also read lots of unassigned journal articles on psychotherapy research, on bioethics, and related topics.

Finally I had to admit that there was nothing behind the curtain. Sure, people are helped by a sympathetic ear. [b]Until 100 years ago, that kind of person was called a "friend" in English.[/b] Probably similar terms in other languages, I can't help but guess. For spiritual issues, someone could go to a priest, minister, rabbi, imam, etc. For medical issues, someone could go to a medical doctor. You get the idea.

The difference between me and a lot of the other students is that I had an existing low six-figure career I could return to. For a lot of them it was either finish this or work at Whole Foods. And for some, it was finish the program AND work at Whole Foods.

Of the people I saw in internships, 70% just needed to speak honestly with a friend, 20% needed to talk to a spiritual advisor, and 10% needed a physician.[/quote]

That’s when the therapists convinced us that you need a “specialist” and started inventing labels like “oversharing” to pathologize those who disagree.

We have also switched from viewing friendship as an insurance to considering it an investment, and with that change,  this older way of handling relationships wouldn’t work.[/quote]

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