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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We are a blended family with 2 teens who are close in age.

The teen that is not mine often alleges that I favor the one I gave birth to.  I try hard not to, but sometimes I want reality checks.

If one kid has an activity at the library that ends at 3:00, and the other kid has an activity 5 minutes away from him that ends at 4:00, it is reasonable for me to ask library kid to chill at the library for 55 minutes, doing homework or whatever.

We all, including both kids, have somewhere to be at 4:30 so metro isn’t an option.  Other parent is taking another kid somewhere, so isn’t available for pick up.  [/quote]

Wait. You said you have 2 teens. You're picking up one at 3:55 and one at 4. Other parent is taking another kid somewhere? What kid is that? And why do you have to be somewhere at 4:30? It sounds like you are overscheduling your family. If that 55 minutes were the kid's only down time at home, or if not coming home means the day is harder or more complicated, then yes I can see why they would be unhappy with it.

It's unrealistic to expect a teen to make sacrifices for stepsiblings. Sorry, you can try to coerce them, but the bottom line is their "sibling" relationship ends when your marriage does, and they know it. It just isn't the same no matter how hard you insist it is. [/quote]

They aren’t step siblings, but he’s not sacrificing for my kid.  If we weren’t in the picture he wouldn’t be able to do both activities (which are both things he wants to do) because he wouldn’t have transportation.

We live far enough from the library that if he came home it would be 10 minutes max at home. [/quote]

Maybe he doesn't like you because your writing style is unclear. What are they, half siblings?.Some sort of cutesy euphemism because you aren't married? Who is the third kid?

Again, it sounds like your family is overscheduled and I do not actually believe this child wants both of these activities.[/quote]

OPs native fluent dishonesty is certainly affecting her relationship with the kid.

Either they are half siblings and OP raised her stepson since he was a toddler, but she doesn’t love him like her own child, or they are step siblings. Either way, OP is being obnoxious, and not for the library wait. I hope the nagging guilt eventually fixes her conscience.[/quote]

+1 OP says out of the gate that they are a "blended family" but now says this sis not her stepchild. I don't know if it's some cutesy "He's not my stepson, he's my bonus son (gag)" or that OP thinks she came into his life too late to ever call him any kind of son.

Either way, it's gross and I wish OP nothing but ill. [/quote]

I am not married to either of his parents.  Therefore I am not his step parent.[/quote]

Well, that's some relevant context.

Teenagers generally aren't keen on live-in girlfriends (or boyfriends).

I don't think it is unreasonable to expect him to wait for an hour. But there seem to be bigger issues here.[/quote]

This. Nor on live-in stepsiblings. And OP seems distinctly un-enthused about caregiving for this boy. So it doesn't really surprise me that he's unhappy. Kids can tell when they're not wanted. OP probably wants to paste in a do-over dad for his daughter and wishes this kid didn't exist. [/quote]

*her daughter[/quote]

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