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[quote=Anonymous]Okay. It is not "cheating" when an adult who is separated starts dating, assuming he has told the estranged spouse he may do so. This is a situation in which the married couple has broken up! He moved out, said "I am moving out, I may date other people, you are also free to do so." The fact that this was framed as a trial separation is neither here nor there. He was honest with her about his plans and intentions. There was no deceit. (I am discounting OP's suspicions about whether he started seeing GF before he moved out, as we have no ability to know if this is true.) And his GF is not "sleeping with a married man," she is sleeping with a man who is separated and has been honest with everyone about his situation.

I get that there are super-Christians on here who believe that until a court hands down a divorce decree it is still adultery. But I don't think most people feel that way in this day and age. To me the relevant issue is whether he was honest, and as far as we know, he was. He may have disappointed OP, who hoped he would decide to make the separation temporary and come back to her, but it is not a crime for a man (or woman) to decide after many years of marriage that they are not longer happy, want to see what it is like to live separately and date others, and then conclude that they don't want to return to their spouse or stay married.

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