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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm with someone in recovery. It is the healthiest and safest relationship I've ever been in. I'm almost 60 and spent all my time up till now trying to understand why the men in my life acted out in weird ways, or trying to convince them that some self-reflection and therapy would be helpful. It's so refreshing to be with someone who is 100% aware of his shit and has a whole community of people and a lifestyle in place to help him stay on track. When we have conflict, he's almost always the first to have reflected on the role he played and how he could have handled things differently. Honestly, he has made me up my game when it comes to emotional intelligence and being vulnerable in order to gain greater intimacy. Another thing - Most of the men in his recovery group are very high achievers, like us. It's not unusual for that drive to be motivated by some really unhealthy history. It's easy to overlook those fault lines when someone looks like a winner from the outside. But that shit comes out eventually. I'm glad that it all came out with my guy while he was married to another woman instead of me. I now get to enjoy the man he became after going through the hell of hitting rock bottom and working his way back out for many years. [/quote]

No offense but you are 60 and your fertile years are behind you as are the stressful years of raising children.  OP wants a life partner and doesn’t want to get to someone’s “rock bottom.”[/quote]

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