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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have three kids, each now married with children. I have no idea who initiated those conversations. The only conversation I had with my daughters was about living together and my feeling that marriage should be on the horizon. I think their now husbands had a good sense for how my husband felt![/quote]

Our expectation - kids will marry into intact and functional families that prioritize education.  They will marry normal people with good morals, good education, minimal baggage and bright future.  No living together before marriage, unless the wedding planning was already underway. No abuse, addiction and adultery to be ever accepted. [/quote]

What we expect from life and what we get are quite far apart. You'll be lucky if half of these requirements are fulfilled. Not saying that these aren't reasonable.

Without living together, hard to really know the person, specially their tendencies for addiction, abuse, adultery etc.[/quote]

We have told our kids not to marry "projects".  If they think that they can change an addict or change their value system then they are mistaken.  Children of addicts - become addicts.  Children of divorce - get divorced.  Children of abusers - become abusers themselves.  I know that people actually show their SO what kind of people they are even when they are dating. Most people cannot fake it forever.  Besides, our kids may marry young, but  (at least the daughters in our family) wait for a number of years before having kids.  No one is having kids before they are in their 30s and have a firm grasp of the true nature of their partner and are financially stable.

Living together and/or having multiple sexual partners - does not prevent USA's 50% divorce rates or dead bedrooms.  Entire DCUM is full of the reality of American family life!![/quote]

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