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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My daughter is in a sorority in a high Greek life school. She is happy, has plenty of activities at all times, and is focused on her education. This board is strange with its anti-Greek stance. Most sorority members are grounded and love the sisterhood and socializing- they are living a balanced life.

It sounds like you don't trust your daughter which is a completely different issue.[/quote]

Neither dh nor I were in the Greek life, so all I know about it are that you’re more likely to get accepted if you are: good looking, fit, outgoing, have enough money for good clothes, and enjoy the party scene. The fact that these people also have advantages in life later from the “brotherhood” of getting each other jobs is just another way of rich people getting richer. Then you add in the ludicrous hazing that has occasionally resulted in DEATH…and you wonder why some people don’t see the appeal? [/quote]

Again, it sounds like you don't trust your adult child to make a choice. Even at high Greek-life schools, under 25% of students are involved so not sending your child to one of those schools where 75% are not Greek is crazy. Second, "rich" people have always had advantages. Sororities and fraternities do not change that. Country clubs are the adult version. Third, I can't speak for other houses, but I can tell you there was ZERO hazing at my child's school. It is not allowed and did not happen at her sorority. We were actually expecting some minor stuff, but it was all about keeping your grades up, learning the history of the sorority, and making friendships. Ooh, the horror!

That said, I am not trying to convince anyone to join a sorority or fraternity. But barring your child from going to school with a healthy system is taking it too far. [/quote]

Perhaps that was your child’s experience at their school, but make no mistake - hazing is alive and well in the Greek system at most schools. And your child would be violating their commitment to their fraternity or sorority if they told you about the details of the process anyway.

Marketing that reassures you that underage drinking and drug use is prohibited, hazing is prohibited, etc.?

Please. Empty words, at best.

They dirty rush, they know exactly when IFC / Panhellenic oversight will occur (which is why you’ll see your kid on Life 360 leaving the house every time at the exact sane time), they use offsite venues like off campus housing for smaller parties, etc.

I’m not editorializing on whether rushing and pledging is the right decision for everyone. I’m just reminding everyone to  be realistic about the process.[/quote]

Just because it CAN happen doesn’t mean it IS happening. Just because kids CAN be untruthful doesn’t mean they ARE.

And many of us also experienced Greek life directly and didn’t encounter hazing or dirty rushing.

It’s extremely clear anti-Greek posters have a negative view of sororities/ fraternities they need to keep alive. Post after post, people who experienced the Greek system share what it’s like. Post after post, anti-Greek responders disregard and argue for stereotypes.

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The fact is hazing does happen at many universities within the greek system.  Even at colleges that claim it doesn't.  Hazing for anything is wrong and demeaning.  The fact some kids feel the need to participate in it to be a part of something is sad.

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