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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Need an outside perspective for a stupid fight I had with DH.

I was playing a song, and DH made a comment about it to basically crap on it.  Something to the effect of how "you women" are so confused, that "you claim to not want to be objectified" but then "you like songs that are totally about objectifying women".  It led to a disagreement - I disagreed that the song was objectifying - my interpretation was that it was about freedom to be who you wanted to be.  He had a completely different take, and said it was about wanting to work as a stripper. I did not agree. He also said he was surprised my relative, who claims to be a "christian" likes the song also.

It led to a heated argument.  He went on one of his rants as I call it - he says it is a logical argument.  He says he only says this because he deeply sympathizes with the absolute tragedy of women's utter confusion with these toxic messages that they are bombarded with.  I said, "thanks for your sympathies - but really, I'M GOOD.". It led to some other B.S. arguments where he was just really trying to prove his point, and start talking circles around me with all of these "logical arguments".

The kids were listening and apparently getting tired of hearing it.  My son looked up the meaning of the song and it basically lined up with my interpretation. But DH kept digging deeper to prove me wrong.  I said, maybe you should apologize for making judgments about me.  He said he wasn't judging me, he was referring to ALL women. Kept rambling on. Eventually acknowledged that I simply had a different interpretation of the song. I said, instead of attacking me with your litany of words, it would just be so much simpler if you just said "I'm sorry".  He says "I'm sorry you have the complete wrong idea about what I'm trying to say--You always do this to me, you completely misinterpret my intention and it's really hurtful and offensive that you think so little of me."  He started getting really upset.
I said "and you always turn everything around to make yourself the victim".  On and on.

So honest opinions welcome. If I was in the wrong, I want to know. If I need to apologize, I will. [/quote]

Pink Pony Club is a great song![/quote]

And Chappel is super-gay, which probably doesn’t align with what OP’s husband thinks

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Stripping, regardless of the sexual orientations, is about objectification and commoditization.

The author of the song escaped one hellhole for a different hellhole
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+1 normalizing sexual display for public entertainment is not healthy and positive in my book.  That's just spin.[/quote]

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