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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]HS SPED teacher here,

I want to be clear, I am sure you love your son and are trying really hard.  I am also sure you are telling the truth as you see it, because when you are drowning in a situation, it's very hard to have a clear view.  So, when I point out inconsistencies in what you're saying, it's not because I think you are lying or trolling.  I just think that maybe, through questions, I can help you see the problem more clearly, and that seeing problems clearly is the first step to solving them.  So, I hope you're able to see my questions in that spirit.

The one other thing that I will add is that it seems pretty clear to me, as an outsider who isn't impacted by the stress, is that there are skill deficits here.  Seeing this as "of course he can hold a pencil correctly, but he's not motivated to."  isn't helpful.  More likely you have a child who doesn't have the skills to regulate, or to process new information while he's disregulated.  So, while he can develop motor skills during a self selected and self directed activity like legos, he can't do the same thing in an adult directed task like writing.  I think it's really telling that he managed to learn some pretty complex things (legos, potty training, reading, writing) when he was motivated and engaged by a task he selected and directed, but struggles to learn in a classroom where he isn't motivated, and doesn't have control over the tasks.  That's not an easy profile to work with, but it's a very different profile from a globally delayed child.  [/quote]

++1 from the peanut gallery here - this is a kid that can learn stuff when HE wants to!

On a different note - OP are there any activities you do with your son that you both enjoy? Can you join him in watching his YouTube videos? [/quote]

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