Reply to My Parents Are Useless: In-laws Are Great :(

Forum Index » Family Relationships

Reply to "My Parents Are Useless: In-laws Are Great :("

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is me and my husband (my parents are great, his useless).

You need to stop seeing the big difference between as making the problem bigger. You're phrasing this like it'd be better if they all were useless, cause at least it'd be fair and you wouldn't be as angry? But that's crazy. Stop comparing.

Your in-laws are amazing grandparents. That's FABULOUS. You've won the in-law lottery. Embrace it! Embrace them! Heck, my husband just took two of our kids to go see my parents at their house WITHOUT ME. Lean in! How wonderful for your kids, how wonderful for you. No but. Full stop.

Your parents aren't involve grandparents. Okay. A bummer, sure, but people are different. They're not going to help. You should set boundaries and clear expectations so they don't make things worse, and enjoy whatever visits or whatever they do give. it's okay to be disappointed, and even to express that disappointment (once!). But then you need to work on letting it go. Not everyone is cut out to be a fab grandparent. They're visiting sometimes? They're not actively undermining your parenting? You don't feel obligated to financially support them? Then frankly, they are right in the meaty part of the curve for grandparenting. Keep your expectations low, enjoy what you can, try and let go of the anger. [/quote]

+1.  I think if one set is fabulous and the other isn't actively making life worse (for example, making bad financial decisions after you tell them it's a bad idea and then expecting you to fix it-  this is one real example from my life, and I have many more), then you won the LOTTERY.

Enjoy your parents in small doses and let the rest go.[/quote]

They also have no retirement savings and are terrible with money. [/quote]

I guess you have permission to not help them in the future with end-of-life care, though I still would take the high road. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics