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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My problem is that I thought it would get easier as the kids get older, but it isn't, it's getting harder.  I'm not sure how long I can continue on this treadmill and am wondering if I need to make major lifestyle changes or if it gets easier.  Are any of you dual working households?  How do you do it with two schoolage children? We have a 3 year old and a 7 year old both with very different needs and I'm afraid it will continue to get harder as they get older since the older one takes up most of the time.  The logistics of just coordinating everything takes hours out of my day.  The older child's needs are extensive now.  Understanding the public school program through my child's eyes, helping with homework, driving to sports and cub scout activities, trying to arrange playdates, teaching responsibility and character skills, empathy, eating and hygeine habits,  keeping up with the house and bills, trying to have a social life, have more time for my spouse, exercise to get back in shape, etc, etc. TIA for any help.[/quote]]

Does your spouse help?  I ask b/c it sounds like you both work and you are doing all on the home front.  You might ask him/her to take more on.  We both work.  My kids are the same age as yours.  I find it busy for sure but not overwhelming.  We have a housekeeper every other week so that might help?  Also how many activities is your older child doing?  Our older does music lessons and one sport at a time and that's it.  Maybe you need to cut an activity (or maybe a parent who SAH of another child on the team can help with the driving if you host a playdate on the weekend now and then?).  We don't do an excessive number of playdates.  Maybe one a month.  my kids play with their friends at school.  We do a date night once a month.  Probably a social outing with friends once a month.  And then each of us does a social outing separately probably once a month.  As for bills/paperwork etc.  Try to set aside one hour a week to do this so it's not a little bit here and there every night.  So maybe an hour on Sunday or the 15th/30th of every month.  Just some ideas.  [/quote]

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