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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You would be someone I would consider dating.  However, after finding out that you provide 50% more than decreed (assuming the amount is based on need calculation) on child support, I would immediately eliminate you as marriage potential.

Big red flag for me that you are either holding on to guilt or that you trust your ex more than yourself to provide for your children.  Why not invest that money in a college savings account or other investment vehicle that will eventually go to your kids? [/quote]

OP here. The reason I send more is due to extra curricular activities. I have debated with myself many times whether I should take them out of their activities. But I wanted them to have as much a normal life as possible. And some of the support goes into college savings as well. That's how it ended up being 50% more. [/quote]

Fair enough. Red turned to yellow flag. If you want to make that green:  show that you are an involved father that isn’t pushing the full mental load of parenting onto the mother.  Sign the kids up for their xcs yourself (presumably, these are weekend activities that YOU are taking them to?!) and manage a college savings account yourself. Why are pushing all that onto the mother?  Sheesh, you sound just like my ex when we were married. Thankfully, our negotiated settlement spells out exactly who signs up and pays based on the season (our kids do fall and spring sports).

You have your kids 3 out of 7 days, yet seem to only “write a check” and then wallow in your self-pity. [/quote]

There we go again. There we go again [/quote]

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