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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think people are overestimating how easy it is to find a sitter for a weekday lunch.  If the mom stays home, I’d say she and child are a package deal until the child starts preschool and the mom can meet for coffee.  [b]Most SAHMs don’t want to pay a sitter to meet a friend for lunch. [/b] If mom works, obviously the child is in daycare or has another caregiver.  If lunch is on the weekend, then mom goes solo while dad watches the child.[/quote]
That's your choice then. My choice is to spend time with you when you actually GAF about spending time with me. So, kind of goes both ways. [/quote]

Meh.  Would you demand a friend use annual leave to meet you for lunch?  A SAHM’s job is to care for her child during the work day.  If you are rigid enough to demand a SAHM’s undivided attention during a midweek lunch and are unavailable on evenings or weekends (when the father could watch the child), then yeah, the friendship is over.  [/quote]

This is an excellent analogy. And yes, anyone who demands their friend with an infant/young child hire a sitter because they will only meet at 12pm on Tuesdays - is a very bad friend. If you don’t understand that people go through different life stages and that they sometimes can’t be exactly who they were before, you’re a very bad friend. Nobody needs that drama in their life. [/quote]

Nobody is demanding anything. Your presence is not that important. OP is talking about meeting childless friends for lunch and because of FOMO she wants to drag a toddler along, changing the dynamic of lunch. Most people agree that’s not ok. Your new life stage means you miss the lunch, not turn it into toddler time. Just say no instead of lecturing people on the circle of life.[/quote]

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