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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DH only handles cooking.

I handle everyone's laundry.  I am currently unwell and he will do the laundry but it makes my heart weep when I see how grungy and sad the clothes look.

I do everything for kids education. He drives them places during the weekend.  I plan, organize, invite, cook, decorate  for parties...he does the ice cube run and pours the drinks.   I now outsource everything that I can because my DH cannot do what needs to be done.

But, as long as the house is standing, kids are fed and we all are alive, I let it slide.  My mom told me that the fact that my DH is not malicious and that I have full control of his money (I am SAHM), and there is no adultery, abuse, addiction in my marriage, and he has zero expectation from me even if sometimes the house is trashed...I should just ignore it.  So, I do. 
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You're a SAHM - your job is literally to do all that suff. And his is to make money. So yeah, you should ignore it. Also, what else are you going to do? You don't have a job. [/quote]

No. As a SAHM - my job is to take care of my kids.  I am a SAH MOM, not a SAH maid.  So,  I give 100% of myself to my kids. Best investment of my time.  He values the family, marriage, lifestyle - and most important he likes his work. So he works in a job he likes, making salary he likes, in a non-toxic and comfortable environment.  He is not a coal miner.

I don't want to work for pay in corporate America because I find it toxic for women and families- so I don't.   I also don't want to do many of the household chores because it bores me.  So, I don't. Whenever I can, I outsource stuff that I don't want to do.  And when we were poor and did not have money, DH and I did the work together.

I LOL at your assertion that I don't have options because I don't have a job.  Just let me say that being strategic and putting in the work before I got married or had kids - [u]has given me plenty of options to never have a job[/u].

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