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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My father told me that the custom dated from when parents paid for sons' to go to college and daughters' to get married.  He paid for my college, and I graduated in 1989.  He did not pay for a wedding (1998), but he did give us money for a honeymoon trip, just because he's a nice guy.

I have two sons and I have told them that we will not be paying anything for a wedding, I think they're a huge waste of money.  (I didn't particularly want one, but it was important to DH's family so they paid for quite a bit of it).[/quote]

Just because you think they’re a waste of money and come from a cheap and rigid family doesn’t make it a universal truth.  We paid for our daughters to go to college and grad school and paid for very nice weddings (one was close to 6 figures) and provided down payments.  We don’t regret any of it and consider none of it a waste of money.  As for the grooms’ parents, all three were as generous as they could be as well depending on their individual circumstances and we were perfectly happy to accept with whatever they offered.

DCUM is very anti-wedding, which is so odd.  I’m assuming it’s because most posters can’t afford to provide their kids good ones so they get defensive and say they’re a waste of money.  But they’re not a waste of money if you actually have it. [/quote]

Because a lot of the weddings are a waste of time, they will end in divorce.[/quote]

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