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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this normal? No.
Is this healthy? No. 
Is this abusive? Yes. 
Can this escalate? Yes.

[b]It's very distressing to see people justifying this[/b], or saying it's better than XYZ. Unfortunately, the only people who seem to think this either participate in it and are abusive to their partner, or have someone who does it to them. Either way, not a person you want to be. [/quote]

Very distressing? Seriously? [/quote]
NP.  Yes, distressing.  Normalizing this kind of behavior because this is what you do or know.  [/quote]

It’s not normal as in it’s normal everyday behavior.  It’s normal for people in a long term committed relationship to resolve 95% of arguments without too much conflict, but to break out into a fight once every couple of months or so.   And sometimes people say mean things or call each other names when they fight.

[b]That’s not emotional abuse[/b], and it’s definitely not sexual abuse.  [/quote]
It definitely is emotional abuse. It's terrifying that you refuse to acknowledge that. [/quote]

What if I’m not angry, and I tell my husband not to send an email because it makes him sound like a d!ck?  Is that terrifying?  
What if he tells me that he is having an issue with a friend, and I tell him that he was the a$$hole in that situation, and he should apologize.  Is that abuse?  What if it was my mom that he is being an a$$hole to, and I get angry and call him out on it?  Does that terrify you?

Is it the words that you find abusive?  Is it the disagreeing with your spouse?  Is it the getting angry?

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If you dont understand the difference between "this will make you look like an a$$" and "you're a f'kin prick" the internet cannot save you. [/quote]

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