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[quote=Anonymous]There are so many potential variables here.  The calling mom didn't even have the right information.  This sounds like the rumor mill run amok.

But 1) If OP's daughter was bragging to the non-invited girl that's mean and OP should talk to her daughter to find out if she was telling that girl or others.  2) Did the other mom hear it from another mom?  Weird for calling? 3) Was the other girl devastated because she thinks she and the birthday girl are closer than they are?

But at some point (and age 10 seems reasonable--it's already happening in my kid's class and she's 7), you can invite just a few kids as long as you're not rubbing it in.  The options cannot be you either forgo a birthday celebration or spend a small fortune to host 25 kids (this is what parents of kids with winter b-days have to do to host this many kids--there's not a big park option).  It's also part of the uninvited girl's mother's job to teach her daughter that sometimes people do small things and you may not get invited, but it doesn't mean she doesn't like you etc., she just may be closer with the other girls.  Everyone has friends and then close friends.  If she believes them to be closer or if her daughter was truly devastated the other mom could have called and said (though I still think this is strange to call and would never do it), "I understand Suzy Q's birthday is coming up, my little Loretta Lynn just loves Suzy and wants to do something with her to celebrate.  Can I take the girls to do X or have Suzy over to play?"   Then the onus is not on the birthday girl's mother to have a different party/spend more etc than planned.  Yes, it is horrible to be the ONLY one excluded, but it does not sound like that is even close to the case here.  [/quote]

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