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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like for some couples, if the marriage is pretty bad but both people are willing to try an open marriage and that open marriage works until the kids are launched, then it's a success story (see the other relationship post about a woman wondering whether she should remarry because she has a 6-year-old daugther, and response sharing links about the significant increased risk of child abuse including sexual abuse when there is the presence of an unrelated man in the home). [/quote]

The open marriage I know that is working for both married people it was because their are both so happy with each other and their marriage they feel its strong enough for them to have fun with others.

They married young; the day after college and now in their 30s they each have a separate date night and see their other person. Also the wife is the one who asked and she is in 3 separate relationships.

And they have 3 young kids.[/quote]

Is she using condoms with all 3 other men? Men usually don't like condoms for an extended time, and they want unprotected BJs. It's not like they only f...k her, so it could be that she indirectly is exposed to sexual fluids of dozens of other people which is kind of gross....[/quote]

Why do you assume the other 3 are men?

I’m a sex educator. She works in public health.

And waaah the men don’t like wearing condoms for too long …… then they don’t need to f&$k her. Right? She can have a boundary and if they can’t respect it she doesn’t have to stay. It’s a) not a marriage and b) not all women worry about what their man needs/wants etc (apparently dcurban moms do)

And I wouldn’t want their relationship or life. I’m exhausted thinking about all she has going on. But it’s not my life.[/quote]

All decent men have ample options in dating market through the apps and won't tolerate no BJs or condoms for more than a few months. She must be changing partners all the time, or exposing herself and the husband.

The gender of the "giving" partner doesn't matter - if she gives head to women, she's exposed, too

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You know this from experience? You are married, monogamous? Do you interview “decent” men about their sexual behaviors for a living?[/quote]

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