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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Omg it’s not like she whipped out a calendar. Many of my friends with club memberships are desperate to take others because they have minimums, or want friends to join so everyone can hang out together in the club. [/quote]

Many clubs do not have minimums. Please do not assume when you go with a friend. We recently had guests with us and spent over $200 on their family. The following weekend we all went out to a casual dinner and they asked us to split the check. We did so but later I casually told her: hey when we go to the pool, there’s a guest fee of 25 per person and we pay for the food at the restaurant. Let’s be sure to split that next time.   [/quote]

Yikes. For me, it’s a pleasure to host and treat guests at my club. I’d be embarrassed if any of them thought I might be keeping a ledger — but you ended the mystery and just told them outright that you were![/quote]

I do think hosting someone at a club is similar to hosting them at your house (where I would never ask anyone to chip in for the cost of the food or drinks) but it's also different because the cost of the dinner is out of the host's hands because people can order whatever they want and there is also a tip.

I would be inclined to treat people at our club because it does feel like hosting, but if someone offered to split the bill I would let them. If we then went to a restaurant with the same people, I would expect to split the bill there, since that's customary in those situations.

Overall, I'd say given the tip and that everyone is ordering what they want, I would always err on the side of offering to pay for a meal at a club.[/quote]

It does get a little awkward though, at out club everything goes on your account. There is no cash or card exchanged.[/quote]

That's every club.  How is that awkward?  That's the whole point, to keep it from being awkward. Are you to cheap to  pay for your friends and want to figure out how to charge them?  Some of you are unbelievable.[/quote]

+1 I can't fathom being wealthy enough to afford a country club membership and then stressing about spending $200 on hosting friends. Isn't that the cost of a bottle of wine at your level? Either you are very greedy and rude or you need to manage your finances better.[/quote]

I think country clubs are a different scenario than going out to a restaurant or hosting someone in your house. You could argue that they are more like going to a restaurant because each item has its own clear price and everyone can order whatever they want to eat and drink. You could argue that they are more like hosting someone in your house because someone is clearly the guest (as opposed to at a restaurant where you are all guests) and someone had to do the inviting so it seems like you are offering to cover the cost of the meal. People can have different opinions about which side they fall on and that's ok. I wouldn't ask someone to pay if I invited them to join us at our club but I would offer to pay if someone invited us to theirs. Seems like all the bases are covered that way.[/quote]

I hear you but it strikes me as incredibly tacky and off putting for someone to ask their guest at their country club to invite them to a restaurant meal because they invited them to their country club. Presumably you chose to invite them to your club and you can afford it. It's just very off brand for the wealthy to pinch pennies or be this transactional in social situations. [/quote]

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