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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Omg it’s not like she whipped out a calendar. Many of my friends with club memberships are desperate to take others because they have minimums, or want friends to join so everyone can hang out together in the club. [/quote]

Many clubs do not have minimums. Please do not assume when you go with a friend. We recently had guests with us and spent over $200 on their family. The following weekend we all went out to a casual dinner and they asked us to split the check. We did so but later I casually told her: hey when we go to the pool, there’s a guest fee of 25 per person and we pay for the food at the restaurant. Let’s be sure to split that next time.   [/quote]

Yikes. For me, it’s a pleasure to host and treat guests at my club. I’d be embarrassed if any of them thought I might be keeping a ledger — but you ended the mystery and just told them outright that you were![/quote]

I do think hosting someone at a club is similar to hosting them at your house (where I would never ask anyone to chip in for the cost of the food or drinks) but it's also different because the cost of the dinner is out of the host's hands because people can order whatever they want and there is also a tip.

I would be inclined to treat people at our club because it does feel like hosting, but if someone offered to split the bill I would let them. If we then went to a restaurant with the same people, I would expect to split the bill there, since that's customary in those situations.

Overall, I'd say given the tip and that everyone is ordering what they want, I would always err on the side of offering to pay for a meal at a club.[/quote]

It does get a little awkward though, at out club everything goes on your account. There is no cash or card exchanged.[/quote]

I am the PP in the scenario. [b]We would have NEVER asked for them to pay since we invited them. [/b][b]We thought their invite for us to dinner the next weekend was sort of a thank you.[/b] As I mentioned we spent over $200 on their entrance fee and food at the pool. I was fine with that but wanted to set expectations for the future.  My whole point was don't ASSUME all club members have a minimum to spend. We go to a well known club in VA and there is no min. We pay what we consume in addition to a monthly fee. Hosting guests is not trying to meet a "sunk cost". [/quote]

Do you hear yourself? You would have NEVER asked for them to pay...but you did expect them to reciprocate. Why is that any different?[/quote]

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