Reply to End of Year Banquet Questions

Forum Index » Swimming and Diving

Reply to "End of Year Banquet Questions"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s weird that some people think that their kids shouldn’t have to be disappointed sometimes. [b]Every year my kids hope to get a paper plate award, and every year 2/3 of my kids get one and the same child (who isn’t as magnetic as the other two) does not. [/b]She is usually disappointed, especially when she was 7 and her 5 year old sister got one. But, truly, that’s ok. She is wonderful at other things, and we celebrate her wins (which are different) when they happen.

I don’t think it’s the swim team’s job to make sure kids aren’t disappointed. But our team has achievement, sportsmanship, spirit and most improved awards. As well as the silly paper plate awards. When our team had 250 kids, most kids got just the participation trophies, and that’s fine.

Celebrating other peoples’ wins while being disappointed yourself is such a life skill. Not to mention that you can’t choose to pursue things for the accolades, because they are totally out of your control. [/quote]

I am not sure what I think about this.

I agree with the general concept of what you are saying if it's sort of concrete achievement-based things.  There are winners and losers and sometimes you don't get picked and all that.  But you're basically saying your one kid doesn't have as outgoing of a personality and doesn't get noticed.  I do think a good culture in any activity finds a way to notice all different types of personalities.[/quote]

Totally- she actually does get recognized for other things (primarily her swimming and being a great little kid coach now that she's older) but she just wasn't the kid that was socializing with everyone, or cheering a ton.  She is much more outgoing and social now, but it took a lot of years for her to feel comfortable in big groups. So I get your concern, for sure, but I think it was fine the way it happened. Me interfering, or going to the team reps/coach would not have changed anything, if that makes sense. [/quote]

DP. I have two kids. I think this is the type of perspective that I really appreciate when I talk to my friends who have 3+ kids. It’s a broader view of personalities and development than many of us have when we’re “in it” - in the middle and too close and personal to our kids and their hopes and disappointments. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics