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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am with you OP. My mother lives a 3-hour drive away. She chose to stay where she is to be close to her favored daughter. She and my dad did have the foresight enough to move into a graduated facility and then the favorite daughter died unexpectedly shortly after they moved in. He died a year later. Then my mom got moved into memory care about 2 years ago. It's grueling to do 6 hours of driving once or twice a month to visit her. I simply cannot do more than that. And when I see her, I don't feel an ounce of love for this person. She was a perfectly fine mother, and I remember really loving her when I was young. The older I got, the less and less she cared about me and my family, in favor of my older sister. Now, I'm stuck dealing with this person who I really no longer have any love for and just feel completely guilty that she's sitting in a facility, her brain pretty much gone, just waiting to die. She's 90 and could go on like this for years. [/quote]

You have my permission to stop visiting. You can hire someone to drop in on her and she’ll probably think this is you. [/quote]

Take care of yourself first. Sounds like she didn't put you first so don't feel bad.

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