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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am friends with a group from my sons school. We get together once a month for lunch or dinner.

So happens we went out for lunch today for our monthly get together. We are a real mix of personalities. Of the 8 of us, 2 are Jewish the rest are mixed religions. We all never bring up politics or religion as an unspoken rule however today the most outspoken of the bunch came out and blasted Israel for what they are doing. She really unloaded, once she got started, she didn't let up (with encouragement from others). We were all kind of surprised and in shock at first. One of the moms (Jewish) is married to a christian husband and is not religious and was one of the first to agree. Then a few others did too. [b]The other Jewish mom however did not take this well. She started to defend whats going on then abruptly got up and said she had to leave early.[/b]

Of all the moms, shes the one I am the least close with but I feel badly for how it went. I want to call her just to see how shes doing because I know it was upsetting to her. Not to say I agree with her at all but shes human and  no doubt felt really outnumbered as the "ringleader" came on really strong. Should I call or leave it alone?[/quote]

It sounds like she's uncomfortable with truth. It might be time for her to wake up to reality, even if it's uncomfortable. It doesn't sound like she was targeted or blamed because she's Jewish (and she should absolutely not be), but ethically, walking away when you feel uncomfortable is a bit childish. There are so many Jews of conscience who abhor what Israel is doing - this isn't a religious thing, it's a political litmus test.

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[b]The attacker was childish.[/b] They had a nice interfaith group going and she ruined it because she wanted to school a Jew. [/quote]

Who was attacked?! 
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You have no idea what was said or how it was said. She walked out so what we do know is that she felt uncomfortable. You never speak about politics at the table as you have no idea where people stand. I don’t agree with all of my friends on their views, so I don’t bring things up. I also don’t post on social media. OP has to decide whether politics or her friendship more important. [/quote]

Way to jump to conclusions. OP has never said that the one person attacked the friend who left. You're imparting your own assumptions. There is no evidence in OP's post that anyone was remotely attacked, either physically or verbally. Sometimes people "feel attacked" but it means the issue lies within you, not in others actual actions or words.
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She felt attacked and she left. You may feel like you can randomly corner Jews about Israel and demand perfect allegiance to your viewpoint or else. Don’t be surprised if they leave. It’s too bad because there is often something to agree about. With that confrontational tactic? No. No minds will ever open or be changed.[/quote]

It's a human rights issue. Whatever religion you are, your own religion can commit atrocities. All religions have some seriously shitty people in them. Either you can stand with them, or against them. If one feels cornered or attacked... it's time for some serious self reflection.

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Sure, which is why you should condemn Hamas as well and then people will be willing to engage in discussion. If you can’t do that… right back at you. [/quote]

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