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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your friend was raised wrong or didn't listen.

Children are trained early that you can't take other people's things or ask for them.

Also to deal with the disappointment of not being able to buy for oneself, the exact thing that somebody else has.

It's personality flaw to be hung up on an object belonging to someone else and not be able to either overcome the covetousness or figure out a substitute or "better than" item to purchase for oneself.

Your friend is self-centered.[/quote]

Op here, and I have to say, she’s not the only person that’s done this. I had another friend who would just ask for things- little things like a pair of field hockey shorts I had since HS, or a clock I had since freshman year of college. But she also was very generous with things and I just gave it to her, although I still had a major sentimental attachment to those things. And my cousin is also very covetous, and while she doesn’t ask directly, she lays on the big time guilt and “jokingly” drops a lot of hints.

So it’s not out of the norm for me. These friends or family has kind of a what’s mine is yours and what’s yours is mine kind of thinking. And now that I’m thinking of these 3 people, I’m realizing they all had attachment issues with their moms. Either not around, or abandoned them, or they were very emotionally immature. [/quote]

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