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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh this sounds like my in-laws.

I don’t think you can stop visits if DH isn’t on board.  They’re his parents, and they aren’t actively harmful.  You can shorten them or go eight months instead of six.

When kids get older they will have activities that keep the family in town so it won’t be forever. [/quote]

YOU can stop visiting though.

I bet that you are absorbing a lot of the awkwardness for your DH.  You're a social buffer for how NOT great this is for everyone else.  So send your DH and kids WITHOUT you.  The first time I did this my DH had on ok time.  The next time he came home and was full of complaints about his parents.  YES I KNOW BUDDY.  Now, I still do see them here and there, so it's not that I am icing them out completely.  But I was basically running around doing the child care and trying to grease the wheel with his parents while he just...sat around chatting with them.  It sucked.  So I stopped.  I go on about 1 out of 4-6 visits and that is plenty.[/quote]

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