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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My husband came to me last year about his concern about my eating habits and weight gain. It hurt, but he was right, and I knew it. I wasn't even overweight ([b]5'7, 145 lbs[/b]) but I had gained 20 pounds since our marriage (20+ years ago), most of it over the past five years due to binge eating. He did it in a kind a caring way - said he was worried about me, that the way I was eating wasn't healthy. I felt hurt and upset but vowed to change. I had wanted to but just wasn't able to. I worked on it last year but couldn't stick to it and nothing changed. He approached me at the beginning of this year again and said he felt I needed professional help - maybe to see a dietician; maybe to try weight loss drugs. Went to a medspa, got a GLP-1, lost 20 lbs and I feel great. I'm glad he came to me; I truly am. He never said he was losing attraction to me (but when I said, "So you think I'm fat?" he said, "No, but I can see that you have gained weight"); just that he was worried about me, that we have young kids and need to stay healthy for them. And he said he wanted me to feel good about myself again.

I really appreciate that he talked to me. It was the kick in the pants that I needed to make a change and I'm much happier with myself now. My crap eating and my weight was ruining a lot of things - my energy, my self-image, my sex drive, my general happiness. Everything feels brighter now.[/quote]

My God 5'7 145lbs sure you are not skinny but you are not fat either. [/quote]

Weight does not denote if someone is skinny or fat. Someone can be low bodyfat at that weight and look great, and someone can have high bodyfat at the same weight and look terrible.

[b]Staying in shape for your spouse/partner is a key requirement to any relationship. [/b][/quote]

This is just your opinion.  Lots of loving spouses don’t impose this requirement on each other.[/quote]

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