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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't really understand how this study is eye opening.

It's a known fact that the most common living arrangement for children after divorce is with mom.

It's a known fact that households where the only employed adult is female, have lower incomes than households with two employed adults, or households with a sole male earner.

So, it seems obvious that divorce is going to lead to poverty for some share of children.

The outcomes they list, such as lower eventual income, teen pregnancy, etc . . . are more common for kids raised in poverty.  We know that.

So, the idea that children of divorce, as a whole, are at higher risk than children whose parents marriage is intact, for the outcomes that come with poverty seems so obvious as to not need a study.

Women who are considering divorce, and for whom an intact marriage is an option (e.g. there isn't abuse, Dad hasn't already walked out) should think about what their financial situation will be after divorce.  They might think about it and realize that poverty isn't a risk to their kids in their specific situations.  They might realize poverty is a risk and take steps to address that, by increasing their earning power, or by making choices that reduce the impact of poverty on their kids.  They might choose not to divorce at all.  They might decide that the impact of not divorcing is going to have more negatives than the impact of poverty.

The conclusion is still the same, that women need to be able to make choices, and that judging them for their choices isn't OK.  That sometimes divorce is an obvious choice, and sometimes it's hard to tell what's right, but that the woman in the situation almost always has more info than you do so assume she did the best she could.

How is a study that shows what we already knows, and that leads to the same conclusions that most of us already came to, "eye-opening"?[/quote]

A large number of people on this thread are still insistent that divorce makes better parents. What are you smoking? [/quote]

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