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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He has complex PTSD and having the children has triggered it. You should talk to your therapist about that.. he more than likely has anxiety, depression, and ADHD[/quote]

This. My husband is similar. [/quote]

Adding it in part manifest as ADHD type symptoms. I mean, I think he definitely has ADHD as well but the CPTSD exacerbates everything trauma is such a jerk [/quote]

Okay, with love: You get to call it "trauma" if you're going to therapy and doing your work about it. "I have trauma" isn't an excuse, it's possibly an explanation. So if OP's spouse wants to claim a diagnosis, he simultaneously picks up responsibility for learning how to manage that diagnosis.

I've got CPTSD, a lifelong physical disability, and a few other letters to add to my name. None of those things is an excuse for me acting like a clown, and all of them mean I get extra responsibilities for managing myself so others don't have to, because I'm an adult. [/quote]

Nobody said it was an excuse, but he doesn’t have a diagnosis and he probably doesn’t have the correct treatment.

You are lucky to have gotten the correct treatment because very few people do.

Men, especially are not going to admit they were abused as a child because they’re too tough to admit it. They don’t know why they’re spiraling out of control the same way women with daddy issues don’t really understand either.

It isn’t until they get a diagnosis and treatment that they can “act like an adult”.

I would think somebody with as much treatment as you would know that, but you don’t so you might want to check in with your therapist. Empathy lacking[/quote]

It’s not OP’s job to fix him. I won’t even go into your weird inference that he was abused as a child. [/quote]

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