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[quote=Anonymous]I know more boys who are struggling than I used to and I am surprised by how much struggle the boys are experiencing in my very privileged school/neighborhood bubble. DH has a pretty wild group of friends but even he has been startled by some of what our kid has bumped up against in school.

The only thing the struggling boys all have in common is:

-hands-off parents/it-takes-a-village types. Their sons are being raised by a few hours of grandparent time here, aftercare there, a random parent for the baseball carpool here, and a random dad coach there. No one is ultimately responsible for their behavior.

-neurodivergence that is ignored or intentionally undiagnosed and is buffered by having a wealthy family that can kind of close rank when things are a little off. The families have lots of connections at our private so can ignore suggestions for intervention/testing and are never counseled out

-phone, internet and video game access with minimal limits

-constant jockeying (with parental support and praise!) to be baby alpha males

What does this look like in real life? My DD was sexually harassed as a 9 year old at school with gestures, words and phrases I didn’t know until college. Other boys are getting punched at school with no consequences for the aggressor. Every single activity at school- even walking down the hall- becomes an opportunity for competition, name-calling, trash talking, and physical conflict. Teachers don’t intervene because it takes constant effort to notice it and punish consistently.[/quote]

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