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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]People, we aren't talking about the US national team or pro club practices. This is pay to play soccer, whether you like it or not. If I want to watch my DC's practice in its entirety, I have every right to. Not once has a coach had to speak to me or anyone else for that matter. As someone said earlier, I would like to know how my money is being spent. I know the difference between a good training session and a bad one. I know the difference between a good coach and a bad one.

People seem afraid that your DC might be in jeopardy of being labeled because a parent chooses to watch a whole practice even if its every single week? Only an insecure coach would be bothered. As long as I am paying, I will choose what I want to do with my time.[/quote]

What's your soccer pedigree to know if the coach is running the best training sessions?[/quote]

It doesn't take a soccer pedigree to determine if a practice is weil run or not... that is a silly question. [/quote]

Then how else do you know?

I didn't know soccer knowledge and expertise was common sense [/quote]

Yes.[b] After a few seasons with multiple kids in travel, it doesn't take long to identify a well run practice vs a bad one.[/b]

Hmmmm....

Players constantly standing in line, not well run

Players distracted and constantly messing with or playing around with their teammates, not well run

Players/team not improving, not well run

Coach constantly stopping practice to pontificate for 10+ minutes, not well run

Coach berating constantly berating players, not well run

Players constantly missing practice or practices with very low participation, not well run

Coaches constantly distracted on their phones or with other coaches/parents, not well run

etc etc etc ... c'mon

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You are right.  I feel there is no harm in watching at the U-Littles ages U9-U12.  This is reasonable and I would consider myself an "Invested Parent"  but not an "Overly Invested Parent."  There is a difference.  I watch also, mostly because I have been on 2 teams where the coaching/ training environment has been sub optimal. Then you figure out why and leave the team for better one.

[b]Overly invested parents[/b] would criticize their player, talk with the coach frequently, yell instructions or comments to the players during the games, complain loudly, blame others for their player's lack of success, ask the coach about private training, and generally spend lots of resources to push training onto young kids.

[b]Invested parents,[/b] would mostly observe and adjust as needed = equals normal behavior.

[b]Uninvested parents[/b], usually are often parents who have gone through travel sports w 2 older kids already, just show up to games and hope their kids decide to do another activity, or often skip out on practices/ late to games and don't respond to any team messages. [/quote]

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