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Sounds like my situation- husband been unemployed- I’m barely holding it together- so much resentment.
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Me too. It totally socks and I'm actually pondering divorce.  I have enough anxiety of my own and cannot deal with his expectations for me to do all the housework, food prep, child care and still be the only one working.[/quote]

I feel like I have daily breakdowns. I cry, feel sorry for our situation, then feel bad I’m not being supportive.
I want to talk to someone- hoping to make a connection for him. I’ve been prayerful and hopeful- all that I can do.
I work part time, then do some private tutoring in the evening.

Some days I can’t catch my breath.
I can only image how he’s feeling… he feels lost, depressed, like a loser… it’s so hard watching your spouse fail. [/quote]

OP here- youve summed it up exactly. Many sleepless nights over here and then the daytime is so hard because Im mentally exhausted and tired from not sleeping. Although going to work and being busy there feels like a vacation away from the turmoil I feel when Im at home. [/quote]

Yes- that’s exactly how it is. And then I have to come home… curious to know what he did or didn’t do… sleeping in, not motivated…

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This sounds like a different situation. If my DH were unemployed and playing video games all day/not looking for another job/not even trying to bring in income in the interim by driving uber, bartending, etc. I’d leave him. [/quote]

He definitely doesn’t play video games. He’s severely depressed. It’s hard to watch. He was our family’s provider. I was a stay at home mom. Now I have to go to work. He stays home- tinkering with our house falling apart… 
I’m torn with having compassion and resentment and so many emotions. [/quote]

OP here- when this whole thing started my husband was severely depressed too.  He was getting nothing accomplished- just staring at the computer. At that point I was being strong and supportive and I encouraged him to take advantage of any down time getting stuff done around the house/yard etc so he would feel productive and active.  That seemed to help him mentally for a while.[/quote]

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