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[quote=Anonymous]I would NEVER tell them about testing for IQ.

Are they biologically your (and your husband's?) children?  Then you just tell them that a doctor helped me get pregnant using something called IVF.  As they get older, they will ask what that is, and you describe what it was (my egg and Daddy's sperm were put in a dish, once the egg was fertilized, it was implanted in me and you grew!)

If you are single, then you will say: I wanted to be pregnant, but didn't have a husband so I chose to use IVF, and used sperm from a kind man who donated it for people like me.

If you are a gay couple, then you use something like the above - we used Mom (not Mama's) egg - or we used my egg for you and Mama's egg for your sibling - and then we used sperm from a kind man who donated it so we could have you and your sibling!

BUT YOU NEVER SAY YOU TESTED FOR IQ. Because what?  If one of the eggs was a dummy, then you'd abort? Or not use that egg?  It just makes you and your partner sound horrifying, and I wouldn't want to find out my parents were horrifying.  But whatever.

Maybe in 25 years, if it's a common thing, then you'd admit it to your adult children.

But telling them about IVF isn't telling them about testing for IQ.  [/quote]

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