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The PP upthread was saying that adult kids aren't entitled to anything, that it should all go to the second spouse. That's not correct.

If you marry someone who already has kids, you need to be prepared for their estate to be divided among their kids AND you and any subsequent kids, if they die. Even if their kids are grown. The expectation that someone is just going to disinherit their children because they remarried is psychotic. Why would you *want* to marry someone who would do that to their own children???

You disinherit because of the relationship or other reasons.

I had savings coming into the marriage, my husband did not. Everything earned in our marriage is both of ours. We have been married a long time. If he gets ill, I will care for him, not his kids. They wouldn’t even know or care. All my money goes to him, all his money goes to me. It doesn’t go to any kids till we pass. That’s called marriage. We then took the estate to 50-50 and I give who I want to, he gives who he wants to, which ended up being the same.

We disinherited his ex wife. She’s gets a ton of money for the rest of her life given they divorced before 30 and she got allimony, child support and half his pension despite being married 10 out of the 20 years. Enough is enough. She’d be the one to sue the estate."

You don't get it. First of all, an ex-wife doesn't have to be disinherited because she isn't entitled to anything. I've never heard of anyone giving money to an ex-wife and the thought of that makes me laugh. Unless you structure your estate plan appropriately, your approach allows whichever one of you survives to do whatever they want with the money. You will be free to cut off his children from a prior marriage if he dies first, and he could choose to give it all to a stripper he meets after you die. [/quote]

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