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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, it takes incredible resolve to think “oh, I suddenly can’t remember why I walked into this room - I’d better go blow my brains out.”
[b]Which is why almost nobody does it.
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It’s very easy to talk a big game about how you would never allow yourself to end up like that.[/quote]

[b]You're looking at boomers who have no idea because they didn't live it. [/b]Believe me the Caretakers/Gen X / Millennials are not so unprepared. But you can't expect people to put their failsafes and full plans on an internet forum. Just know they're there.

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You are sorely ignorant on the history of elder care. FWIW, many "boomers" did indeed live it because they had their elderly parents IN THEIR OWN HOMES because full-time nursing care was prohibitively expensive. Most of their parents did not have the kind of insurance that covered it. Entire families pitched in and helped. [/quote]

Then they should know not to be a burden. But not many of them planned. [/quote]

Most middle-aged people know what it is to have to care for elderly parents, because most of them have had an elderly parent. This is life.

Every one of us could be a burden on our children, no matter how much we plan. Unless you wealthy enough to outsource absolutely everything,  your children will need to buy the diapers you wear at your assisted living facility. (Supplies like that often aren't included.) Your children will help you make doctor appointments, and though your ALF may have transportation to take you there, your children will need to be on hand to tell the doc what you are too tired or too sick or too debilitated to tell them yourself. Your children will arrange for your prescriptions to be picked up, for your favorite snacks and drinks to be delivered. They will take you to the dentist and the optometrist. They will buy you new clothes when you've grown too thin to wear your old clothes. When you complain day after day that the aides don't respond to your calls immediately, it is your children who will have to hear it. When you are admitted to the hospital, they call your children. When you need more care than the ALF provides, your children will arrange for outside aide services. When you need a nursing home or rehab, or other services that mean you can't stay at the ALF anymore, your children will have to find a nursing home and move you there.

Unless you are very wealthy, there is no way around this. Elderly people need the same kind of care and attention that young children do. And as with young children, that care is provided by or closely overseen by families.[/quote]

I am just amazed how many people deny this simple truth. All the child free 30 something’s, they have no idea.
It’s sad really [/quote]

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