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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why on earth would you not first see what is available as an accommodation or short term disability or unpaid FMLA?[/quote]

I can only take short term disability two weeks before my due date. I’m used unpaid fmla as part of my maternity leave. I get 6 weeks paid leave and the rest is unpaid. [/quote]

That hasn’t happened yet. Take the leave you need now to heal. Don’t quit becuase you tweaked your back and need to buy things for the baby. He’s right that you’re not thinking clearly. [/quote]

+1. Defer the decision to quit. If you are in pain, you should be able to get a doctor’s note to take leave. Even if you run out of paid, you can take unpaid later right?

Organizing baby items is like… a weekend or two at the most. You do not need to quit in order to do that. Put that rationale aside as it makes your case weaker.[/quote]

I can’t. I have only been at this job for 8 months and I don’t think I can take all that time off.

We have to setup the nursery. Unbox everything. Wash. Sterilize. All the things. [b]My husband isn’t good at that stuff and doesn’t plan to help me do any of it[/b] besides putting together the crib. 
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Yeah you need to nip this attitude in the bud, pronto. Even if you’re the one who’s into organization and want to take the lead on that, he can still do the unboxing, washing, sterilizing. Heck, if you are truly immobile, he can even organize things under your direction.[/quote]

I think I misrepresented my situation. I’m not immobile. I’m in pain but I still work and still maintain our house. It’s really hard some days because I’m in a lot of pain.

My husband will help unbox and put furniture together. He doesn’t care about putting together a postpartum cart or organizing clothes and stuff. He will help if I ask but it’s not his first thought to do any of it. [/quote]

You need to consult with a good spine doctor for pain: it's surely medicated with a short in your back and only takes one appointment. It releases the pain for months. [/quote]

I’m not comfortable with medication while pregnant. No anti-inflammatories or injections. [/quote]

Doctors should make judgement not you on that. The local numbing is safe for the baby[/quote]

I disagree. It’s my body and my choice. A random doctor doesn’t get to decide that for me. [/quote]

OP - you are a drama queen. Not seeking medical help for your back, doing needless stuff for nursery at friend's advice, not consulting with husband, not hiring more household help as you want to be on top of everything....

Try to think before you make next moves. Right now you have issues with logical reasoning. Better to take maternity leave earlier and loose some money, than quitting it completely from a dry financial standpoint

You together are also making over $0.5m and are perfectly able to hire more help at home[/quote]

I never said I didn’t seek medical care. Not sure why you’re lying about that. I sought medical help but there isn’t much to do when you’re pregnant but heat/cold therapy and Tylenol.

I said I wouldn’t take medicine like anti-inflammatories from a spine doctor op told me to go to. There are risks taking steroids like hypertension and excess weight gain. That’s not worth it for me.

I’m not doing needless stuff for the nursery. All I’m doing is setting up a postpartum basket to keep in my bathroom.

I did consult with my husband

We don’t need help. We can’t afford a chef and we already outsource major cleaning.

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