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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So my personal story is actually not quite this, but I wonder how people feel and act.

(My personal piece is that as a first time college applicant in my family, I wanted Georgetown, got in, my parents couldn’t afford it, and I went to American for a low price and am annoyed to have gone to a school with an inferiority complex, which I clearly also have.)

I have this sense that if my high schooler regardless of plans doesn’t go to a school more prestigious than mine, I probably screwed up. Didn’t help enough or make things happen that could have developed the kid’s potential.  And kid probably doesn’t want to think of themself as an underachiever. [/quote]
Yes, similar story. Maybe if my parents would have paid for the elite school for me, I would have been more successful and able to pay the elite price for kids. Interestingly, spouse doesn't feel the same and has no guilt or sense of personal failure, just blames the schools for being too expensive and says you can get a decent enough education in-state. Is in denial that the schools are viewed differently and if they are, "that's ridiculous,."[/quote]

I'm with your spouse. Your bitterness is not a persuasive rationale for wanting your kids to attend a better school than you did. If you really blame your lower level of financial success on your parents for not being able to pay for an elite school for you, you have many more important issues to investigate than perceived prestige of various universities.

Lots of us contributed to the costs of our own college education. Lots of people are highly financially successful without degrees from "the elite school." But we and they probably don't have the same sense of entitlement you apparently do, expecting your parents to provide fully for your college education and success.[/quote]

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