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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This sounds like our family. Pretty similar.

What are you having trouble with, exactly? Just hire help.

And definitely keep the part time job. [/quote]

I’m tired from the day to day and raising two very young kids - one who is still a young infant. It’s the menial repeat tasks like packing a lunch and snacks, laundry, constant surface level cleaning, making all appointments for kids, managing all the outsourcing, managing all the childcare, cooking 2-3 meals a day, doing all the grocery.

We have cleaners, a nanny for when I work, and outsource yard work. There isn’t really much else to outsource.

My husband is great with the kids but doesn’t help out with any cleaning or above tasks. [b]He just sits down to relax while I do the cleaning up after we put the kids to bed.[/b] [/quote]

I’m assuming your oldest is a toddler. Get in the habit NOW of cleaning up all toys before dinner. Praise the kids to bits and pieces if s/he puts away a toy. Tell Daddy about it. Do it while she watches. Then do it together. In about four years, the kids will be picking up all the tots before dinner.

In the mean time, be very strict about screens. When your youngest turns 3, strike a desk with the kids that they can have 20-30 minutes of screen time while you cook dinner, but all chores must be done first.

My kids are now 6 and 8. I require them to clean rooms, put away shoes/backpack, set the table, and clean all their toys before they watch TV. This didn’t happen overnight. I started with one small task and taught the kids how I wanted each toy to be put away. I pointed out that they’d get to TV sooner if they made their beds in the mornings. Etc., etc.

TV works as an incentive because I’m very about it. I even insisted we buy a car without a TV, so I wouldn’t be negotiating screen time in the car.

Eventually, you should only need to do dishes after the kids go to bed.

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