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[quote=Anonymous]I am late to this thread, but I would like to know: When you decided to put your 3 kids in private school and enroll them in travel sports, did you have a conversation as a couple about the opportunity cost of doing that? Because I’m guessing that you didn’t and that she assumed if you could pay for that then you could also pay for college. And you knew she assumed that. So if you didn’t tell her “Hey, if we put 3 kids in private school and you don’t go back to work now, we won’t be able to afford college, which means you’ll probably be forced to work then,” then you are getting exactly what anyone could have easily predicted. Own your own role in this and apologize to your wife, empathize with her disappointments, and ask for her to craft a plan with you to move forward in a way she feels she can accept. You enabled her into remaining childish, and now you have to share responsibility for that if you want to work through this. [/quote]
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