Reply to My kid witnessed another playdate - awkward

Forum Index » Elementary School-Aged Kids

Reply to "My kid witnessed another playdate - awkward - how to handle?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I was trying to advocate for my kid. She spent the afternoon alone crying while three friends were off having fun; how is that in any way fair? I am on the fence with how to respond to this girl's mother. She just responded with a "heart" emoji on my text and said, "I'm sorry she felt left out. Three kids is my max for playdate supervision. Hope we can see you soon." Not even an invite or any kind of ownership of the behavior.
Maybe I am being insecure or irrational but seeing your kid in tears, left out, visibly, hurts.[/quote]

That was a gracious reply. Now you just leave it alone. No “ownership” that she needs to take, and no obligation to come up with a specific time and date for a future get together for your daughter.She empathized with your daughter, but that doesn’t mean she needed to change her own game plan if she did not want to. And she may have said three kids is her max but in reality her daughter just wanted those other two girls there for whatever reason. Relationships are fluid, or maybe those three girls share an interest that your daughter doesn’t share and the host kid wanted to spend the afternoon doing that thing.

OP, it’s time to close this episode. Do not respond, and instead of letting your daughter cry all afternoon, next time, take her out and distract her. In your shoes, I would have taken her to a museum, or out for FroYo, or running errands and stopping by a store she likes. Just anything to distract her and help her move on from that episode.
[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics