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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The willingness of men to chuck it all rather than solve problems will never cease to amaze me. OP is stressing about wife’s spending as if, as the breadwinner, this is something entirely out of his control. This is no different than any other problem in marriage OP. If you haven’t  gone to marriage counseling over this and you’re posting on a message board asking if you should leave, I feel really bad for your kids. As a poster upthread said, you’re not some helpless waif unless you decide to be one.

Although, I can’t really decide if this is real. A guy making 600K with a $2 million house and this kind of wife with twins clearly hasn’t done the math on the fact that a divorce would make him broker than he is right now, or he’s a troll.[/quote]

Unfortunately yes, that's true. She will be entitled to support to sustain the standard of living she already has. They're not going to divide everything up 20/80, even if that's how their income is split now.

But he'll be in charge of whatever money he gets in the divorce, so he can be responsible with it. No matter how much money she has coming in, she will always want to spend more . . . that's the nature of the dopamine addiction. How much they make is really not relevant to this dynamic.[/quote]

"Whatever money he gets in the divorce" on that income with wife's current spending levels is like giving someone ten bucks, taking back, eight, and then telling they can be in charge of two. Who cares? He doesn't earn enough for two wealthy households. Also, marriage is a business, but it's not just a business when you have kids. You're in charge of people's lives.

This guy "doesn't want his wife to feel like a child" so he won't put boundaries around spending, all while outearning her by orders of magnitude, and would give up half time with his kids (and let's face it, guys like this never take 50/50 custody, so there goes more $ in child support) rather than manning up. I mean...I just can't. Like I said, they'll chuck it all and start over rather than doing the work. It's really something. [/quote]

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