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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you need a lot of support right now. Back pain from an herniated disc while tending a newborn is a lot. It would be hard to get out of bad daily for most people in this condition. Are your parents nearby? [/quote]

My parents don’t live nearby and can’t help anyway. Older with health issues. My family has kids of their own and work.

We make a little over 200 combined. Way more than the average American, but definitely far less than most on this forum. We can afford childcare but definitely not an expensive doula. The ones I’ve looked into charge like $45-60/hr. [b]We can’t find a nanny willing to work less than 30 hours. [/b]

It’s been bad. I’m usually a very clean person. I make it my best to make sure I don’t smell. I take care of what I can. I’m just in so much pain that doing basic tasks takes so much out of me that I don’t want to shower. All I want to do it sit and ice/heat it.

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This I can help with. You are not looking for a nanny, op. You are looking for a babysitter. To make the offer as attractive as possible, you say that the specific days and/or the exact hours are flexible. You also need to let the babysitter bring their kid.

For example, we needed two days a week when I could nap. So I advertised for any two weekdays, as long as they weren’t back to back. We preferred 1-4, but we were clear in the as that the hours were flexible.  We paid $12/hour in 2016, and heard back from ten people. Your target demographic is college students who have weird class schedule and really only want to work 10 hours/week and single mothers on welfare who can’t earn too much. Good luck.[/quote]

I know you mean well but this hasn’t been our experience. We looked into a babysitter. I wouldn’t trust anyone under 21 my child. Even college kids today charge $25hr for childcare.

We have to pay above board - no cash. That’s really challenging for find with under 30 hours.

We aren’t comfortable with a person bringing their kid.

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