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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you have trash parents who take advantage like this for their litter of children, then, either you cut them off, or you have them at your place and feed their kids. You do not want your child to go to their house.

We had neighbors like this and they came to our house basically for food and shelter. The few times my kids went to such homes, they came back complaining about dirty homes, broken toys, no food or terrible food, and yelly parents.

My kids have a great understanding of the dysfunction in the lives of many of their playmates.  So, if you host them, you host these kids as a kindness or charity.  They are not responsible for their ill bred parents and the circumstances in which they live. [/quote]

You don't sound the least bit kind or charitable. [/quote]

:lol:  I am a pragmatist and a realist.  I am quite aware of what is actually happening and there is no confusion in my mind.  The "charity or kindness bit" is for others who are confused about it - but not for me.

Bottomline is that I do not want my kids to go to the homes of these kids and so I would rather host them and feed them at my house.  I am not hurting for resources, time or energy to feed these children.   And I also know that these kids will not be a permanent fixture for our family. [/quote]

I’m a DP from the one who responded to you, but I posted saying that neighborhood kids (from multiple, good, loving families) are always coming over to my home and I’m comfortable having them over and asking them to leave.

My experience is that kids always want food at friends’ homes. I’m a bit of a health nut, but the neighborhood kids always ask for *something* and eat *whatever.* they eat snacks my kids complain about. You would think they were starving they are capable of eating so much, but my kids complain that we don’t have the delicious snacks that their families have and I’m guessing my kids eat a lot over there too. So I wouldn’t jump to the conclusion that they don’t have food (or shelter? Aren’t they your neighbors?) because they are coming over to play and requesting food.

Also raising your children to think of others as “ill bred” IS a form of dysfunction. [/quote]

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