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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women don’t need men to survive like they did in the past. We have our own money, our own homes, and our own children. Who needs a man anymore?[/quote]

Women who want a loving companion and a family for their children.[/quote]

Agree, but that assumes a man who is a loving companion and good parent. A man who ticks those boxes will do well.[/quote]

And attractive and smart women are mostly able to find these men. The biggest hurdle I believe is that you have to find them early. You don't have to marry or have kids early, but I do think by age 25 or so most of the good men are in serious dating relationships. Obviously there are exceptions - good men who for whatever reason didn't want to be committed earlier - but the amount of good ones still unattached shrinks drastically as the years go on. [/quote]

Why is there a time limit on being a loving companion and good parent? Those are choices any man could make at any time. If they are choosing otherwise, they won't do well in the dating market and unattached women will do their own thing re: kids. But it's a choice those men are making. [/quote]

I think PP was open to the possibility of men choosing at any point to be loving companion and good parent.  But they see evidence on the ground that indicates that the earlier you look for a relationship, the higher your odds of finding men who either know they want that choice or are open to it.   Over time they either get paired off, or they get set in their ways and less and less able to easily leave the single life.

David Brooks wrote a piece about how people (men and women) might be focusing too much early on on their careers, and missing out on the time when they are most likely to find someone -- and for someone to find them.  https://www.nytimes.com/2023/08/17/opinion/marriage-happiness-career.html ("To Be Happy, Marriage Matters More Than Career").

"When I’m around young adults, I like to ask them how they are thinking about the big commitments in their lives: what career to go into, where to live, whom to marry. Most of them have thought a lot about their career plans. But my impression is that many have not thought a lot about how marriage will fit into their lives."

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