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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lube up. Story of our marriage. They don't change. [/quote]

OP here. Honestly, this may be the best advice. However, I feel like that pleases him still and not me. I want to be touched. I want to be turned on. Just lubing up turns him on and not me. I still want sex, very often, but I want my thighs stroked too, kissed, etc. [/quote]

Same here. I tried showing him, but he gets impatient if things take time, and I feel as if I am a burden. He gets tired if I ask him to hold on the same pace or, alternatively,  cannot repeat the motion I like.  When I show him a position, his back starts hurting, or his leg goes numb, and he can't continue. It's been like this forever! Once he saw a move  in p**n, I guess, or read somewhere about what women like. He proceeded despite my begging him not to do it, and it hurt like hell. So now, we lube up, I go through the motions, and he feels good. The end. [/quote]

OP, how old is your DH? I am 50 and very athletic. I go to the gym 4 times a week and do a.mox of cardio and strength training. Unfortunately men my age who don't exercise and have a very sedentary lifestyle tend to have much lower testosterone, back issues "boner" issues, you name it.

Anyways I am very sorry this man has abandoned you sexually this way. I must say compared to.apt.of.women here you have aor of patience. I.am.shocked aot haven't as ice you to look for an AP to take care of your sexual needs.

I have a solution that may work for you. There are actually sex therapists who can teach people how to have fulfilling sex. Your husband may need to see one. I don't know much about it but every now and then some have suggested it on this forum.

Finally, is your DH stressed? Loo up mindfulness. It's an incredible powerful tool to free your mind of cluster and be in the moment. When you are in the moment, sex is incredible.

It seems to me that this guy has a lot going on in his mind and he needs help.

Strength training, cardio, good diet. Mindfulness and plenty of water is the secret to deliver guarantee orgasms every single time. With DW we don't even need to have sex more than once a day because she O she gets are so intense that she is sensitive down there for the rest of the day.

I am sorry hopefully he changes his way. He is your husband and he really needs to care for you. It's important for him.ans for you as well. When sex is not satisfactory, relationships begin to deteriorate. We have one life to live and enjoy and sex is big part of it. . [/quote]

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