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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If you can afford to pay the rent then just offer that.  Its a rock and a hard spot otherwise because obviously you need to prioritize your kids.  But, if your nephew is working at a law firm maybe he'll work pretty long hours?  He might not be around much.  He might also mellow a bit with some gentle redirection like "that's lovely you got an A.  we're proud of Larlo's hard work too.  We're proud of both of you."  And then talk about other things, and SHOW this kid that he is more than his grades to you.

It's tough being poor.  On some level your nephew probably knows that if he isn't super successful at school he won't have the opportunities other kids (like yours) will have.  Maybe that is why he's always talking about it?  Maybe he feels subconsciously like he always has to be super smart otherwise he won't be accepted? [/quote]

Rethinking this after someone pointed out the kid is 16.  No 16 year old should be renting a room by themselves.  Just host your nephew but its your house your rules.  You don't have to tolerate rudeness, but you can help a child (even a teen) learn.[/quote]

Can’t you host your nephew but have strict behavior stipulations and also say if he doesn’t comply, you’ll kick him out?

And he sounds like an annoying teen but not a bully. Do you have other examples of his behavior?

I think maybe you secretly resent that the really poor kid actually is smart and got an impressive opportunity that your kids didn’t?

He is poor and needs opportunities. He found a great one and you’re not willing to help at all.

I’m not trying to pile on here, but with the facts presented you sound petty and cruel. [/quote]

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