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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like you just don’t want to get a job lol. It also sounds like your DH has no respect for you or your family. He’s already in an open relationship, giving it freely to anyone he can. Assuming his younger plaything gave him that gross bracelet. Honestly really really gross if she’s young enough to make it swiftie-esque. You don’t actually care about it affecting the children, you just don’t want to lose your rich friends and fancy cars and house.

Just know this is the type of relationship you are modelling for your children. No respect, no caring, no truth, no self esteem. I hope you realize how badly that reflects on you both. Your sons are learning it’s totally fine to have multiple side pieces- their POS wives will never leave. And you’ll be responsible for that behavior. Your daughters are learning that they have no value if they aren’t someone’s wife, even if their husband doesn’t love them, doesn’t show them any respect and uses them.

This is why people say that “staying for the kids” isn’t actually helping. At least admit that you want to stay because you’re scared, lazy and don’t want to be alone. Don’t put your la k of self esteem on your poor children. [/quote]

I haven’t read the rest of the responses to see if anyone called you out on this but this is offensive. I’m in a similar situation and I’m not staying because I’m lazy or because I want the money - I’ve sacrificed everything including my career for nearly 20 years to support his career and support my children, including one with special needs that my husband could not/would not support except financially. My sons hate my husband and see right through him - they know exactly what I’ve sacrificed and why.  It is not as easy as you seem to think and you are not the judge and jury of someone else’s reality. [/quote]

Let’s pretend you had $5M in the bank in your name. Would you still be making the same choices? Be honest.

The reality is that the reason women stay with cheating/abusive husbands is almost always financial.

Your case is especially egregious if you are forcing your children to live with a jerk father who mistreats them. It is absolutely more damaging than divorce. [/quote]

It’s not financial, it’s mental issue and groomed/learned behavior.  
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