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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reciprocity is the basis of human relationship since the start of human civilization. No, the deeds don’t have to be in kind, but each person needs to contribute.

Friendship is like a hug. To be satisfying, both people in the embrace need to squeeze with similar amount of pressure.

I am a frequent host and social organizer. As I age, I have learned to lean more into those relationships that are fulfilling to me. People always have excuses about why they never invite me to places, but at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. My time and resources are limited, too, and I want to invest in relationships with people who show me that they, too, care about me.

OP, my advice is to let go of the one-sided embrace and find someone else to hug without any guilt.

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This is good advice and I'm a limited reciprocator.  If you are high maintenance and need more out of a friendship then they can offer, find someone who is in your same place.  Nothing wrong with that at all.  Just don't complain that your "friends" don't reciprocate - friends shouldn't expect people to be something they're not.

BTW- I had to distance myself from over inviters, so this logic works both ways.  I find some people over bearing and needy, which I cannot handle.[/quote]

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