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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So sorry for you and your children's loss.

You don’t mention the usual crashed cars, lost jobs, lost friends, blackout apologies and mortifying moments that most of us think of when it comes to alcoholism. I think of how much someone would have to drink to wreck ther internal organs and I can’t put it together with what you’re telling us.  
Was he otherwise fully functioning? [/quote]

OP, I’m sorry you’re getting these pushback posts. I am so sorry for your loss and appreciate you opening people’s eyes that this is how alcoholism can present. [/quote]

All the people on this thread pushing back need to take a long, hard look at their own alcohol use. Needing to argue it's not a problem is a massive red flag for a problem.[/quote]
I am not one of these posters, but wish there was more out there on what an ok level actually is /the effects at each level. I know people will say any is too much, but that is just not going to happen for a good amount of people. At what level do the really serious effects occur?[/quote]

Alcoholic here.  It changes over time, as your relationship with alcohol changes.  I didn’t even drink until I was 21!  No partying in high school or college.  When I was young, if anything, I drank less than most people in my attorney circles.  I was always good to be the DD, never day drank or drank alone, etc.

Over time it gradually snuck up on me until a glass of wine because a nightly thing.  For ten years.  Then it became 2, then 3.  Then gradually, over the course of years, it became 2-3 bottles and plenty of hard liquor in addition on the weekends.

Now I am sober, I would say that when whether or not, or how to drink should not occupy much mental headspace.  Of course you have to plan whether to drive or not to be safe (I never drove drunk), but if you are the DD does it bother you?  Do you plan drinks because you “need” them to have fun/relax/get through things?  If you are using alcohol as a crutch of any kind, not good.  A person can take or leave it if they have a healthy relationship with alcohol.   I guess that is kind of what I would say to people wondering how you know you have a problem, but really talk to your doctor.

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