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[quote=Anonymous]I have two ADHD now ACs, one with severe dyslexia, the other with some heavy psychiatric diagnoses.

First, OP, you are obviously a devoted parent doing the best you can. I want to say that first because I don’t want you to feel attacked by any of my takes here.

-I don’t think taking away ski club should be on the table. It’s a positive, pro-social activity that likely provides a lot of release and relief. If you’re able to undo that decision, take the equipment where it needs to be or whatever, I would. For me this kind of activity is  different than going to a party or hanging out. I still think if you’re going to have a consequence he should know in advance.

-What happened this morning is bad. Shoving his dad is a 🚩 and you should take that very seriously. The good news is that he is young. His brain has a lot of capacity to rewire.

-I don’t know what therapists have been advising, but it definitely is not working. That doesn’t mean you’re doing a bad job or that your son is unreachable. You need a new team with different strategies. It sounds like you have been getting pretty standard ADHD advice. That works for many, but not all.

-If you haven’t already, get a thorough neuropsych evaluation and find out if there’s anything else going on. Especially since he’s erupted into violence, you really need to understand what you’re dealing with.

My DD (severe dyslexia) was generally accepting of accommodations/interventions and had a lot of internal motivation. Even so, some “out of the box” solutions were better for her.

My DS was the opposite and had a lot in common with what you described. No consequence that we could lay down ever motivated that kid. We wasted a lot of time banging our head against the wall repeatedly following pretty standard advice.[/quote]

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