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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op, as a fellow preemie mom -- in no way were you being over sensitive. When your baby is a preemie, there is a huge emphasis placed on size, weight, and catching up, and thereafter a huge emphasis on milestones. It's relentless and mothers of term infants simply do not understand how painful it is and how guilty you feel. Being "tiny" at birth can have life long consequences for preemies and it is devastating for the mother to have the baby's size remarked upon by strangers and acquaintances, making her feel like the baby is so different and a freak. People said amazingly insensitive things after I had a preemie. Women remarked that I was so tiny and I guess that was the trade off. My mil asked what I had done wrong. My coworker gleefully informs me, at every stage, that my now 90% percentile baby was the size hers was at basically birth/ four months prior. Having a preemie means your child has special needs -- for the first few years, it is monitored closely and development is watched like a hawk. People think its no big deal, but they need to try to have some compassion and understanding. Late term preemies, babies born from 34 weeks to 37, are three times more likely to have autism, dramtxually more likely to have ADHD, learning disabilities, and delays. It's fu$&&@@ scary and isolating. I don't care if you just say your friends preemie baby is tiny because it is to you and you don't mean to insult. You don't tell disabled people they don't walk. You don't tell obese people they are fat. Grow some sensitivity. [/quote]

Well said.[/quote]

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