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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]With any close friend, I would be able to say “listen, people are speculating that you are sleeping with X. You might want to dial back how much you interact with this person. And just so you know, X mooned me while wasted at the last party (or whatever he did), so you might want to consider whether you even want to be friends with X. I have no interest in interacting with X and he won’t be on any invite list I’m in charge of.”[/quote]

This, the above, is your script, OP.

This script also informs her without judging (at least not out loud; you have every right to judge in your mind. I do. But you won't get her attention if she feels judged, when you're trying to get her to listen rather than switch off).

The one thing this post above doesn't address is the fact that the friend's own teens apparently are aware of, or at least have been speculating about (?), their mom's cheating. At least, that's what I got from the sometimes meandering details re: OP's teens and her friend's teens. I'd add to the above just one sentence: "You should also be aware that your kids are among the people speculating about you and X."

All kind of moot, though, since you seem to fear losing your social life if you dare deal with this. But the key here is, this woman and you are not actually close friends, if you cannot just say to her face what the PP above wrote. [/quote]

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